Just for you

Why is it that we sometimes without apparent reason or motive? Today i realized that whenever someone wants to make us feel worse by insulting, it hurts them more to ignore than just fight back (yes it may seem like a logical answer to many, but not to me ;x). In the audio book of Dale Carnegie (dunno if ive wrote about this before Dx) he says, wisely, that everyone desires a feeling of importance; the kid that cries to his mom, the emo that wants to stand out, the smart guy who wants to be praised, rich people that donate so they have their names on plates, people at IRC that feel so good if they have a (+%@!) beside their names…. etc. EVERYONE wants it, some in lesser degree than others, but in the end we all want it.

This leads obviously to think that when someone insults others or tries to make them feel like they are less, its because they search this exact feeling. So by denying the insult, by ignoring it, we are denying them that exact feeling of importance. To be honest I’ve made the mistake of looking that feeling of importance in these way, but as usual now that I know about it I’ll try to improve and avoid doing it to the best of my abilities. I have also learned that when we want to make someone feel better we just need to make them feel important, even if we dont like them and they dont like us, if we make ppl feel important they WILL either stat liking us or at least stop disliking us.

So try to make people feel important, not because you want something off them, but because you’ll make people happier and enjoy their lives more. Just with a small gesture like calling people by their names even if we just met them, or telling someone is right even if they are not (more on this on a later topic), aknowledging someone’s job in a specific task, etc. Lets try to be in the other’s shoes, and understand them… try to be empathic about what other’s feel, after all their feelings aren’t so far away from ours…

Confusing topic again ~_~ *sighs*

well thanks for reading

GBU /o/

So… a friend asking me if i knew any nice free programs. I instantly answered, "all programs are free for me". Yeah, I’ll confess it, I’m a pirate! \o/

I download everything i want for free; songs, programs, games, etc. Of course sometimes I dont find what i want, but there is always a subsitite. Recently found how to download songs from imeem, which i think saves alot of trouble if its just one song you want.

Anyway the reason i wrote this is to wonder, is piracy wrong? Well i asked a priest once… his answer was rather suprising xD He said that the internet is a public domain, and as such, everything thats public is free correct? So, if someone publishes the software, its free. To be honest that answer was sucky >.> Mainly because i think piracy is… well wrong. Not as if im stealing the program, I see it as: If i had to paid for that program, I wouldnt use it in the first place. I would use the alternative, since i dont need to pay to use it… well I use it. (even that sounds like complicated explanation to me @-@)

The thing is piracy is wrong, but you cant do anything about it. Companies should focus on new ways to sell instead of forcing ways to sell with old methods. Adapting is the key, companies need to evolve if they want to survive on the net. So i encourage all if you wanna pirate something, try to see if your country doesnt have any laws against it xD

One more thing about piracy, since im so savy in the ways of the pirate, it helps me find stuff that chocoju needs. So that fact alone should make piracy good o.<

thanks for reading

GBU ^-^

My big siter is getting married this coming friday. She is 25 years old and has been with her boyfriend around 6 years or so. To be honest I don’t think I’ll miss her much. >_>;

Well she is barely around, always works or with with her half-groom, so really not that much to miss. By the way i say half groom because the legal wedding was this last saturday so legally they are married already

They will live in my aunt’s empty apartment until they can afford their own place. :3 which means… a empty room in the house! \o/

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On another note….

My thesis process already started and even though in my mind finding sources wouldnt be hard… it has proven to be quite a challenge T_T

After almost 3 hours (more like 6 hours trying but 3 were lost in a nap) of thesis work, I came up with the outstanding number of… 3 pages! \o/ the only problem is i need 20 pages for this tuesday T_T Well I have no other choice… So I’ll focus and start typing *-* since i need thesis to graduate, and i need to graduate to go to indo, and i need to go to indo to…. taste the food! \o/ oh and to see my chocoju >.> (jking xD)

Thanks for reading

GBU o//

My sister is getting married, has been with her bf for 4-5 years and they’ve always had looooots of pics. I mean hundreds of piccies, just the two of them. One day, he told us why they took so many pictures, he said: "A friend of mine was getting married, and some months before the wedding the groom died. Sad, she went through his and her stuff and wanted to see some pics, and she could only find no piccies at all. So she told us (to sis and bf) to take as many pics as we could."

I guess thats why i treasure Juju’s pics so much, cause besides the fact that they make me feel closer, i can always get a reminder of how lucky i am. (bragging? Dx) Before, i never really cared about pictures. They were just something that people took during a certain occassion and that they will never see again. But know thanks to juju i know, that pictures are to be shared, so we can share memories. Pictures help us close that gap we have…

I love pictures now… specially if Dai is in them :3

thanks for reading Gbu ^-^

So I’m starting my last semester in university. Its only been four years and thank God not many bumps on this short road. Because its the last semester lots of stuff on our schedule, mainly, thesis elaboration *-* Luckily it appears that our univ has a easy method of making the thesis which consits on a guidance course on what the subject we wanna develop should have with the help of 2 counselors. So with that we are supposed to hand in completed thesis on november. \o/

Long way still considering i only have my topic ^^;;;

Well the good news is that my thesis counselor is a girl that graduated a couple of years agom and they say she is nice when grading the thesis (cause each counselor grades the thesis). The thing is i dont know my second counselor yet so… hopefully he/she is nice ^-^;

On another note… graduation is on June, after having our private exams so hopefully I’ll have my degree in less than a year \o/

Thanks for reading GBU :3

Birthday celebration is a common thing here, usually a people come to one’s home and eat some cake have dinner or lunch and thats it. Well in my opinion we celebrate our birthdays not because of us getting older, but because its the day we were born. The day that our bodies stopped depending physically of our mothers and we began living our "independent" lives.

It is truly a date to celebrate and to spend with the ones we love and care. Sometimes people are afraid of birthdays… in my case, i take it as a chance to realize that we must treasure our time on this planet, and enjoy it :3

And today of course its a important day for me… >.> cause its juju’s bday! \o/ Important cause this day she was born and eventually led to us meeting each other \o/… thats the main reason i wrote it la~ so enjoy your Birthday! \o/ \\o o//

GBU and thanks for reading. o/

Ive been wanting to write something about what i learned in retreat for a while, but couldnt push myself to do it. Mostly cause of forgetfulness >.>;

First is to always keep God present, since He will help us all the time even if we don’t want to. Second, this is more of a lesson in the book i was reading, don’t talk about others behind their back… since people won’t trust you anymore. They will never know if you are talking about them behind their backs o.<

Third is to be.. transparent. It is to do what you say you’ll do, dont hide your true self, thats something ive been personally trying to improve. Another is to beat our pride, its our greatest weakness.

Pride can hurt us more than anything else, we can do stupid things because of pride… If we can manage to conquer our pride, we become truly free, not slaves of our desires or stubborness but free beings that choose to act correctly… even if it doesn’t give us any benefit. So i’ll just say, beat your pride and you shall be free.

Short post just cause i noticed ive been writing too long posts xD;;; la :þ

GBU and thanks for reading :3

Recently (Friday till Sunday) i went to 2 and a half day retreat. It was my first retreat ever so I didn’t know what to expect really… Just went with the thought that I needed to get closer to God. Well before retreat I just knew God is there, but never talked to Him, like a wall was there all the time. In retreat there are 3 basic activities praying, meditation and talks. Meditation in these type of retreat specifically, its when a priest read the bible, all while in chapel. He reads excrepts that he selected and he commented about a specific subject, like chastity, humbleness, etc. The "talks" are when a knowledgeable guy that has bible studies and again talks about specific studies, but with less… praying approach as meditation. In the mean time, you have extra time, and reading a book is recomended.

Anyway, at the start they said to keep talk with others to the minimum to help have dialogue with God. All that contributed to give me lots of time to think and talk with God. Sometimes what we lack is a time away from everything so we can hear our own voice and God’s.

On a side note… the food there was really tasty, so i ate alot… Dx Saturday on lunch I ate so much tummy was huge and full, but dinner looked tasty too so i ate again Dx (gluttony Dx) Anyway the next day… i woke up with inflated tummy from gases and burps that made me repent badly what i ate. That made me realize how improtant being sober is, not only in drinks but in food too. We can sometimes stop eating something we really wanna eat, and offer it to God so that our soul strengthens and we please God too.

We are all called to be saints, its our duty as christians to act as close to how Jesus acted as we can. We can all be saints, its all about working to be one.

God bless you all (first time i inlcude this in blog ^-^;;;)

Luis

As requested: (promise its not to brag Dx)

Met you (deeply)  5 months ago… back then my life was pretty simple: study and have fun…

Then i asked you to be my girlfriend, thought it was the only logical step since we felt so good together. All was fun and games until we started getting more serious, as in taking each other more seriously… it shouldve gotten harder, but in fact got easier, for both of us. Everything started to flow smoothly, yes we got to know the other´s flaws but we didnt care. I guess everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it. When you felt sad, i usually supported you… but still kept my feelings hidden, protected…

But then, after long time…. MY walls… you finally started bringing them down…
I mightve looked like i was showing all myself, but guess this little part of me was still hiding deep inside. And you reached it…

Tonight, when i was feeling so down… i couldnt see hope, you gave me hope. You Daisy. I´m glad you were invisible. I´m glad i was invisible. Yes both of us hurt, but that suffering let me meet you.. Couldnt ask for a better partner. After 4 months, i still cant believe how lucky i am to have you.

:3

Despite what many people think, a relationship doesnt have to be full of fights. I used to think a relationship is ok when the good moments are more than the sad moments, I was wrong. Recently I saw some troubled relationships, that even though looked like they were the right for both people invovled, it was destructive for both people in the end.

A healthy relationship, in my honest opinion, is one that makes the couple more happy than if they were alone. What i wanna say is that when one starts to wonder if he would be happier without the other, it probably means its not meant to be. Our subconcious usually helps us on this matter. When we get a gut feeling that tells us to stop, we should stop. Because sometimes infatuation beats logic, and we start acting in a way that hurts ourselves. Love is truly blind. Thats the reason why a relationship can’t be all feelings, there has to be reasoining, logic, caution, courage, etc.

A relationship is the same as faith. If we believe in it with our heart but our head says no, then it will crumble. Love involves the heart and the brain. Thats why those relationships, where the only thing that attracts them its the libido, dont work out in the long run. A relationship needs much more than love to work,  i realize that now. However love is the pillar, and by love i mean, the desire to make the other happy even if it means being unhappy.

Sometimes i feel all my blogs are like bragging xD;;; of how lucky i am to have Juju. Sorry for that ^-^;;;

Also apologize for my confusing writing,  ill try to improve.

Thanks for reading o////////////